Thursday, December 27, 2012

Christmas Gifts: Now what?

We are so thankful for all the gifts we have! In the end, the kids were so excited about their gifts, whatever fancy idea I had to start gift opening tradition went down the drain.

One thing for sure, the pink and purple quotient in my house has gone up considerably over the holidays. I don’t understand why doesn’t Barbie paint her house yellow or green or beige? How can one have a pink bed frame, a purple door, pink roof, purple wallpaper, pink bathtub, purple dining table, pink pots & pans, purple towels… … …?

Girls Christmas Gifts

Well the both girls love it. Together with some pink bracelets, purple wallets, pink pencil cases, purple handbags…

As for Nathan, his gifts are Blue, Red or Grey. Blue cars, Red cars, Grey tracks, Blue Beybade, Red Beyblade, Grey mechanism. But he does have splashes of Yellow, White and Black. The boys definitely have a more rainbow worldview!

Boys Christmas Gifts

Looking at the toys, the Mars & Venus comparison starts. The colours, the details, the technicality, and the cost of the toys!! It all started from the very beginning. (To be objective, the girls toys were simply imaginative good old play toys. But the boy’s! Batteries operated, physics and aerodynamic involved and that little LED screen?)

Anyway, today is 27 Dec. The timeline thus far:

25 Dec – Unwrap (tear open) all Christmas gifts and OPEN one gift per child

26 Dec – OPEN one gift per child

27 Dec – Christmas ends. All gifts are in the storeroom.

That’s six toys in our living room, permanently set-up. (See pictures above) It should last till school starts, and there after, we will ration one new toy a month per child.

This Christmas, I’m grateful for all the love and generosity that our family and friends have given us. We are of course ever more thankful for God’s hand and all his provision in our lives. Hope you all had a wonderful Christmas!

 

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Monday, December 24, 2012

Christmas Gifts: How to open them?

It’s Christmas Eve. 

We have bought all the gifts, wrapped them, tagged them and given them out.

We have received many gifts, and dutifully kept them under the tree.

Now everyone’s waiting for Christmas Day. (We told the kids they can open it then, no need wait till Boxing Day!)

When it’s Christmas Day, I’m thinking if I should start a tradition about opening presents. I’ll tell you about it in my next post!

Do you have a tradition for this?

And here’s our gifts under the tree:

Gifts under Christmas Tree

 

Wednesday, December 19, 2012

Candlelight Service: How Great Thou Art

Christmas. Time to love & give. Time to celebrate the birth of Christ. Time to be the light of the world.

We had our annual Candlelight Service in church last weekend. It was beautiful as we also celebrated God’s goodness, faithfulness and grace.

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Candlelight CHC children

Candlelight CHC 2012

Strangely the song I’m reminded of this season ain’t a Christmas carol, but an old hymn:

O Lord my God

When I in awesome wonder

Consider all the worlds Thy hands hath made

I see the stars, I hear the roaring thunder

Thy power throughout

The universe displayed

Then sings my soul

My Saviour, God, to Thee

How Great Thou Art, How Great Thou Art

Thought I’ll leave you with Sandi Patty’s rendition of this hymn. Have a Blessed Christmas this season!

 

Grew up listening to her!
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Friday, December 14, 2012

Happy Kids, Happy Parents

Ice cream. It appeals more on a rainy day. It appeals even more after a full and satisfying meal.

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We were at Bugis+ (previously known as Illuma) and GELATERIA ITALIA was shouting as us. And, it wasn’t just us who heard the voice! hahaha… So we had a dose (three doses to be exact) of Gelato.

I like to think that calories in Snickers-flavoured Gelato, Deep Chocolate-flavoured Gelato and Hazelnut Cream-flavoured Gelato burns faster than regular plain ones. The deception goes deeper as I figured if I type out every flavour, the calories will all burn off! Ohhh and if we call it gelato, isn’t it healthier?

End result? Happy kids, happy parents!

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Wednesday, December 12, 2012

Therapy 101-My Special Child

Sarah has a 9 year old boy who diagnosed with Dyspraxia. This is a neurological disorder beginning in childhood that can affect planning of movements and co-ordination as a result of brain messages not being accurately transmitted to the body. The journey of discovering why and how Sean is different was one filled with ups and downs. This is Sarah’s story to encourage other parents who are going through this same journey of discovery.

Every good and perfect gift comes from our Father in heaven.

Good and perfect... When my 1st born son, Sean, was diagnosed with at the age of 6, I asked God countless times why did this happen to the child that He has given me. Isn't every good and perfect gift comes from Him? To me, this was less than perfect.

At the age of 3-4, we noticed that our son has symptoms of an ADHD child. As 1st time parents, we did not know what to do. We checked with his preschool teacher. She had the opinion that Sean was possibly an autistic or ADHD child. But sadly, she was later rebuked by the principal for giving such opinions. So nothing was done to follow through her observations. Then we had nice aunties who were helping out in the church crèche who told us that Sean showed signs of a special need child. But our parents dismissed the remarks, commenting that Sean is a bright and intelligent child. So, we let go of the thought until things got worse when he turned 6.

That was when my second child was born and my attention for Sean was divided. My mum, whom Sean was very close to, had to leave Singapore for a long period of time. And Sean had to prepare for Primary 1. This proved to be too many transitions for Sean.

It was then that my husband and I noticed a downturn in Sean. He started going toilet to relieve himself almost every 10 minutes. He kept having the urge till he felt so angry with himself. We brought him to the doctor who advised that it was most likely due to stress and it should go away soon. His problem persisted and he developed an OCD symptom. He kept smelling his hands and thinks that it stinks. Sean would repeatedly wash his hands again and again. He even had suicidal thoughts. All these raised the alarm bells and troubled us greatly.

We brought Sean to a psychologist who diagnosed him as a dyspraxia child. As he was unable to cope with the multiple transitions and it resulted in him breaking down in such a manner.

For the next 3 years, Sean went through occupational therapy that helped his motor skills. There were also social behaviour therapy and counselling given to him. Life was never easy for Sean. He was not able to perceive things like how other normal kids do. Due to his motor skills impairment, he was not able to keep up with his peers and thus often being rejected by friends, who blame him for any accidents that happened. He developed low self-esteem and a lack of confidence.

Being an anxious mother who had high expectations of Sean did not help him at all... I became quite a "monster" to him. Wanting to speed up the therapies, I instilled a "tiger mum" discipline on Sean. Our relationship was hurt... There were times I even wondered if I love this child.

Indeed, it has never been easy, for both Sean and me. Many times, I felt so tired and discouraged. But I thank God that He opened a door for me to spend more time with Sean. I thank God that He sent a "not-so-perfect" mother to encourage me that I am not alone. I got better and had a breakthrough in my relationship with Sean. (Friends around me seemed to be perfect mothers who are ever so patient and loving to their kids. So I had never really shared with them my struggles.)

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Sean is now 9 years old. Is he a good and perfect gift from God? In the past 3 years, I am totally convinced that YES YES YES, Sean is a good and perfect gift from God. Sean is a beautiful child. He has a big heart. A heart that allows me to make mistakes while in the pursuit of wanting to be a perfect mother. A heart that always love and forgive. A heart that always hold his mother so dearly. Sean is my special child. Through him, God taught me how to love.

There are so many things that I would love to share about a dyspraxia child. I will when there is another opportunity. But very importantly, for every child out there, every special child has a special need. A need to be loved.

I thought the best thing for me to do now is to share a little of my story to encourage mothers like me. Many times, so much focus is on the child that mothers do not get the "therapy" themselves.

If you feel that you belong to the "not-so-perfect" mother like me, remember that in every mistake we make, we can only get better. You are the best mother for your child. No one can ever replace you.

This is part of a series I’ve started – Therapy 101, to document Nadine’s developmental struggles and victories, and to journal my own learning experiences as she goes through hers. We have occasional guest posts to share other stories of parents with children going through therapy.

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Thursday, December 6, 2012

Anyone with kids who are careless, lazy & not paying attention?

When I was a kid, I remember when test papers were returned to us, I would get scolded for being “careless” and “lazy”. As my mum looked at the paper, it’s always a case of “why so forgetful?” “why didn’t you read the question carefully?” “did you pay attention?”. I would check with some of my friends, and realised our parents said the same things!

Now I’m a parent. Guess what? These same words are used! hahaha…

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Well, recently I learnt something that totally changed my mind! A child/adult learns through various cognitive skills. These include Comprehension, Memory, Logic, Processing etc. Let me give you an example:

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Which picture A-B-C-D best match the top picture?

The skills you use to pick out Picture D has nothing to do with being careless, or being lazy to check or not paying attention. Rather, the cognitive skill used is Visual Discrimination. With this skill, you are able to observe keenly and have attention to details. This is the skill we use when we copy the figures for problem sums in Math papers or transferring the answer for comprehension questions.

Nicole and Nathan did this question. She got the answer wrong despite looking keenly at the pictures. Nathan got the answer in a few seconds. Does this mean Nicole is more careless or less conscientious in her work? No No No! It showed that her Visual Discrimination skill is undeveloped, and Nathan is naturally more inept for this.

What a revelation! It’s not about her study attitude. And looking at this, you may think it’s about those IQ tests. It’s not about IQ. It’s about exposure to a certain skill and developing that skill. So Nicole has to learn how to observe before she can copy that right phrase from the comprehension passage in her test papers. Her super super careless mistakes when doing math was not about her care-less attitude! She just never learnt how to observe well!

So where did we learn this? We were at Thinkersbox, a cognitive skills learning centre. The kids received a short assessment of three basic skills while I went through a brief introductory session on what the centre does. Based on the results, a customised programme will be planned for each kid to hone their strengths & weaknesses.

Visual Discrimination Skill

The programme is 10 month long, and during that period, NO CONTENT will be taught. The trainers will only focus on learning skills. There are 27 skills identified and at the start of the programme, the child will go through a more detailed assessment for these skills. At the end of the programme, another assessment will be done. And from Thinkersbox research and experience in several primary schools over the past few years, there is significant improvement to each child’s learning ability.

Common Scenarios we parents face:

  • Child cannot follow the teacher’s instructions despite listening attentively
  • Child cannot remember simple information e.g. what he had for lunch, when is spelling test
  • Child reads a passage but reads it wrong—names mixed up, info jumbled
  • Doing a math sum but copied the number wrongly in the working sheet

These are some signs of undeveloped cognitive skills! It’s not necessarily a learning disability, a bad attitude! Isn’t that good news?

Important question: How much does it cost? The 10-month programme costs $2,000. This is for a weekly 2 hour session, which would work out to $25 per hour. That’s not too bad, if you compare with the various enrichment courses and tuition schools.

Isn’t that great? It was comforting to know that content plays the least important role in our exam-crazed society. Such life-long learning skills make a tremendous difference to that much dreaded PSLE!

If your child is between 5-12year old, click here for more information

I really would recommend you signing up for a complimentary 3 Learning Skills assessment. It’s FREE!

Find out if the results tally with what you’ve been nagging complaining saying about your child. SmileSmile

SPECIALLY for Mumseword readers: if you sign up before December 2012 for the customised programme, you get $100 off the total price. Just mention Mumseword when you sign up to get your discount!

Thinkersbox is located at 420 North Bridge Road, North Bridge Centre #03-02/03, Singapore 188727. (Directly opposite the National Library)

 

DISCLAIMER: Mumseword was invited to Thinkersbox Development Centre, but all opinions are 100% my own.

 

 

Wednesday, December 5, 2012

I Theatre: The Little Red Hen 2013

Do you know the story of The Little Red Hen? The reality-hits story of the little hen on a project with no one offering their help, and when success comes, an entire load of friends descends on her to claim credit and share the fruits.

This familiar tale was made into a sold-out musical production in 2007 and 2008 and it’s coming back!

I Theatre is putting together a 2013 production from 28 Feb–16 Mar 2013. This time, there’s some new songs, new dance, and I heard, new stuff that the audience gets to do!

The early bird sale has started! Go grab your tickets here from now till 24 Jan 2013 to enjoy the special prices! Tickets are available through SISTIC.

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Guest Post at The Gingerbread Mum

Today, we are guests at The Gingerbread Mum, and I had the opportunity to think about the year 2012 and how thankful I am for what has happened. Adora is doing a daily series showcasing what different parents are thankful for in 2012.

Drop by to read about my year here.

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Tuesday, December 4, 2012

My Child & Me Day 2012

Today is the day Nicole has been waiting for! Our bi-annual special day together.

When she started school this year, I told her at every semester break, Mummy will bring her out for one day, and she gets to plan the day, choose her meal, do whatever she likes! This was her plan for today:

  • Cut hair
  • Eat Pasta especially lasagne
  • Do Nails
  • Do Chinese Tuition homework (???)

Don’t ask me about the last point. I was very amazed too! Anyhow, here’s our day!

MCMD On our way

MCMD Hair cut for kid

MCMD Manicure for kids

MCMD Lasagne

MCMD Sleeping

Yup. The day ended with her sleeping curled up on my lap as we made our way home. As the ad goes:

Haircut: $10

Manicure: $7

Lasagne: $15

Child’s smile and big hug: Priceless

This holiday, plan a day out with one child. Let your child decide on what he/she wants to do, eat and where to go. Share with us as we celebrate My Child & Me Day! Trust me, it is going to be priceless.

Here’s how to do it:

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Monday, December 3, 2012

Digital Christmas Card

Nicole can do programming! woahhhh! I can’t believe it! From our gene pool of non-tech, non-IT, purely Arts cells, she did a digital Christmas card! Before I show you the final product, here’s where she had her classes:

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The class is not big and they students got to work in pairs. This helped as they had their peers (strangers in Nicole’s case) to help them through the project. The instructors were on hand to assist and give advice. In fact, from the card, you can see that the instructors truly just gave technical advice and clearly did not give any creative inputs!

Here’s the final product! It’ll go to Nicole’s cousin who is currently overseas. She’s excited to start on another project. She wants to say hello to her preschool friends, her church mates on weekdays, and her school mates on weekends. Amazing, ya? I can’t believe my daughter is so techie! I’m thoroughly impressed! (and she loves it too!) Click on the picture below to see her Digital Card!

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Saturday Kids are conducting more Digital Christmas Card Workshops this holiday season. You can get more information here. Each workshop consists of 2 daily sessions of 3 hours. They have workshops catered to 7-9 year olds and 10-12 year olds. Go for it and be amazed!

DISCLAIMER: Mumseword was invited to the Digital Christmas Card workshop, but all opinions are 100% my own, final product is 100% done by Nicole!

 

 

Friday, November 30, 2012

Goodbye Blackberry

29 November 2012 – my life took a significant change in the techno realm.

After nearly 5 years of a 24/7 relationship with my Blackberry, I ended it last night and moved to the android world. The blackberry opened a new world of free texting via PIN or BBM. We could surf the net (I mean we could check out websites), and we had the most wonderful QWERTY keyboard to type on.

Well, things started to change two years ago. The iPhone brought a new perspective to Smart Phones. Then came the Android Phones which made the Blackberry look/sound pathetic. There were many apps that were just not available to the BB. And even the basic regular stuff like Internet, Whatsapp, Bible, Google Maps were slow or lagged.

I was resistant to the change because I love the keyboard. My FAT fingers can’t handle touch screen. It was weird no matter how I twisted and changed the angle of that finger.

But the time has come. The BB died on me many many times the last 3 months. It hung and the data disappeared. Suddenly all the stuff that our iPhone and Android friends did seem very exciting. So yesterday, my husband surprised me with a Samsung SIII! The first thing I did was to download a LARGE keypad for the fat fingers.

I won’t bother with taking a photo of the Samsung or giving a verdict about the change. Afterall, everyone else save for the remaining few BB users are totally familiar with what we are missing out.

It’s been half a day of being BB-less. I don’t miss it that much, but I really really really really miss the keypad. Adieu… it was great while it lasted.

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Wednesday, November 28, 2012

Give Thanks-My Domestic Helper

It’s Thanksgiving month! And today I wanna thank my domestic helper. God has been good to us. We’ve had two domestic helpers the last 7 years and both were different but VERY GOOD!

We’ve heard many horror stories about irresponsible helpers, lazy ones and some erm… not so brainy ones. I thank God that Aunty Jing is a super great help and truly a blessing to my family.  Aunty Jing

Aunty Jing is from Philippines, and she used to own a restaurant. As such, she’s a fantastic cook! She does wonderful western and local cuisines and always attempts new dishes. When we were watching a recent episode of Masterchef, Nathan asked, “Can you sign up Aunty Jing for Masterchef? She will win, you know!

Alongside her cooking, Aunty Jing is great help when we go grocery shopping. She grew up in the agricultural industry, thus she’s really very good at picking out the freshest vegetables, sweetest and juiciest fruits, and the good fish and meat! I’ve never had a sour mango or tasteless apple since she came!

One of her responsibilities is to bring Nicole to her enrichment classes in the weekday afternoons. It sounds real easy. But that also means both of them have to brave the sun or rain and take public transport to the school, thereafter be back home and prepare dinner for the family; all these on top of her daily household chores. Of course the times when Nicole is in class means social time for her to chat with the new found friends she easily makes around the school. She gets her soul time, my kid gets to improve her math. I’m cool as long as she fulfils her basic responsibilities.

Bottomline, we love her and the kids adore her!

Then there was Aunty Wheng! She was our first domestic helper. She came when Nicole was 6 months old and she is now our family friend. Aunty Wheng is a trained nurse from Philippines, so she gave us invaluable help when the kids were sick, she knew what to do when there were medical emergencies like sudden rashes or severe vomiting.

Aunty Wheng wasn’t chatty. She was very focused on finishing her tasks and devouring the books we had. She read a lot, not only to herself, but to the kids too. She toilet-trained Nicole when she was only 2 year old!

Aunty Wheng

When she was with us, she attended church with us, settled in a Filipino cell group, went for meetings and prayer meetings on her off days. After 3 years, she left for Canada to pursuit her dreams of being a nurse there. We all cried when she left. In fact, Nathan, who was the most attached to her, went on a food fast for five days after her departure. He refused to eat anything other than drinking milk! You can ask him which country would he like to visit and Canada would be one of them!

Both Aunty Wheng and Aunty Jing are not perfect. One is a melancholic and gets moody. The other is super sanguine who has a short temper. Both are not great housekeepers. Both have overslept before, damaged some equipment or clothing before. But both were answers to prayers we made. This was exactly what we told God about each helper. We prayed that each would:

  • Have initiative
  • Have favour with us, kids, extended family, friends etc
  • Be a person of integrity
  • Share the same values we have
  • Grow to love our family
  • Love God

And that’s how it turned out each time! Both of them became invaluable help. We have family and friends who have commented on how blessed we are to find such good help each time.

I thank God how He has given us wonderful helpers, that I can have the peace of mind to go to work or play and know that I can come home to a clean house and good meal.

Do you have people you wanna give thanks for? They can be your closest family to the neighbour across the street to the bus uncle. Take some time to give thanks this month… We always love to read about any blessing big or small. And everyone loves to be thanked!

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    Monday, November 26, 2012

    Playmobil Bazaar in Sentosa

    Are you a Playmobil fan? Our kids are! (cos Daddy is a big fan, and he actually reluctantly lovingly passed his decades old Playmobil figurines to Nathan… more about that another time!)

    This December holidays, Sentosa has set-up a Playmobil Bazaar at Palawan Beach! From now till 30 Dec, it’s Playmobil galore in this corner of the island! There’s life-size Playmobil knights, princesses, pirates around, together with little stores for craft work, Playmobil display sets and the most fun—Playmobil Fun Pit.

    Playmobil Pirates Lifesize

    Playmobil Fireman Lifesize

    Playmobil Princess Lifesize

    Playmobil Larger than life

    Playmobil Pirate Playset

    Playmobil Knights Playset

    Playmobil School Playset

    Playmobil Games

    Playmobil Storytelling

    Playmobil Sleigh

    My verdict? The area is a little small, however the lifesize models and the playsets are a great introduction to Playmobil. Having it so near the Port of Lost Wonder (POLW) helps add to the ever Popular Pirates theme!

    The Bazaar is free and the venue is great—just at the entrance of POLW! Enjoy!!

    DISCLAIMER: Mumseword was invited to the Playmobil Bazaar, but all opinions are 100% my own, kids expressions are 100% as genuine as they get!