Tuesday, March 26, 2013

Therapy 101: Cognitive Activities—Make them think!

What happens at therapy? Is it just some games? Or hands-on activity to get the child the think? Surely you can do that at home? Do you really need a therapist to do that?
 
These are some questions that are thrown to me when people find out that Nadine goes for therapy. I know they mean well, and I appreciate that. Just to answer the questions:
 
Sometime therapy happens behind closed doors. I’m sitting at the reception area, and I can hear the session, but can’t see what’s happening. I can hear Nadine squealing in delight sometimes when she gets excited, or I can hear her frustration when she’s made to repeat certain phrases that’s difficult for her (e.g. words that start with L and Y). I get to find out what happened in that one hour, only after the session, when the therapist does her end of lesson summary with me.
 
The following is my (and Nadine’s) favourite activity:
Therapy activity
 
It’s really fun and you can try it too! Each shape represents an activity. Your child has to remember, in this case, Square: JUMP, Triangle: KICK, Circle: CLAP & Star: STAR JUMP.
 
Round 1: You draw out various sequences on a paper. As you point to it, your child does the sequence. This is the simplest portion. Keep it to 3-4 actions per sequence
 
Round 2: You do a sequence of action, and your child will draw out the correct sequence. (you can see the part that she drew vs the part the therapist did!)
 
There are various adaptations that you can do. Generally, the child gets to do crazy actions and at the same time, hone her skills to remember cognitively and sort out her thoughts.
 
For Nadine, this was very effective. In her jumbled up brain, she has a mish-mash of information that is not sorted out. This activity helps her think through in a fun way, and teaches her basic categorisation.
 
So since I can do this at home, why does she still need therapy? Cos this is one of the many many activities she does during her session. Cos I can do this activity, but I couldn’t possibly come up with it. Cos even if this activity is found in Therapy activity books, I wouldn’t have known what level of difficulty I should pitch it at. Bottomline, unless I’m trained in childhood development and therapy, it would be really unfair to Nadine if I am her only source to help her through her developmental journey.
 
Do you have a favourite interesting activity that helps a child’s cognitive skills? I would love to hear them! Leave me a comment if you are have and if there is sufficient contributors, I will start a linky to share our resources! I will share more in my future posts!
 
Leaving you with a picture of Nadine recently, co-ordinating her hands! She had a blast!
Nadine coordinating
 
This is part of a series I’ve started – Therapy 101, to document Nadine’s developmental struggles and victories, and to journal my own learning experiences as she goes through hers.
 
Therapy 101
 
 

Friday, March 22, 2013

Fit & Fab Friday: Women’s Ideal Body

It’s coming to the end of the first quarter of 2013. I’m been on my Fit & Fab quest for 3 months!!! I’m going on ok, feeling fitting, but unfortunately not exactly feeling more fab.

Let’s see, my stamina’s improved definitely. I have no more adverse reactions to the thought of exercising. My exercise shoes have been out of the shoe cabinet more often than in. But, those muscles are really quite a challenge to develop. Let me show you some random pictures of body parts I’m coveting: (KPI: Slim and toned. No need muscles showing)

fitfab ideal body

That’s all I wanted. And I’m no where close! Wahahaaha… At this point, I really wanna salute those with really fit looking body. I promise I won’t laugh at those you-must-have-worked-so-hard muscles anymore. The effort put in must be so so so so tremendous and you are so so so disciplined! I’m not giving up though. My super ideal (probably many years later!!) is: fitfab ideal sculpted muscles women

I know, all work leads to profit, no pain no gain, you sow, you reap. So I’m keeping at it. Three months down, we have nine more to go! Leaving you with my Fit Fab Bible Verse for the year:

Prov 3

 

Mum’s the word

 

 

Wednesday, March 20, 2013

Boys have sweet tongues …

How do you respond when your man says the sweetest thing? You go Awwwwwww and possibly give a whack and go, “ya right!!”

Now how do you respond when your little man says the sweetest thing? You just go Awwwwwwwwwww!!

On Monday, I went with Nathan (that’s my little man) to Grandma’s house. We were returning her car which we used over the weekend. I was happily listening to my favourite radio station, Class 95 when he said out of the blue:

Later when you park, remember to change the channel back to Grandma’s radio channel—Gold 905.

It’s her favourite. I want to make it easy for Grandma when she drives her car!

Now, don’t you just wanna go Awwwwwwwwwwwwww?

Gold 905

 

 

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Tuesday, March 19, 2013

Movie Review: Dreamworks’ The Croods

The March school holidays just started, and the first thing we did was to catch a movie! (yup, that’s us. Avid movie goers for both Adults & Kids!) There was only one cartoon this time—The Croods, and I must admit I entered the theatre with little or no expectations, simply because there was little publicity and hype. I just didn’t know what it was about!

The Croods

Well, I exited the theatre with a bit of a teary eye, and laughing out loud with the kids the comic moments in the show. It was good! Our entire family loved it!

The plot (in super summary): The Croods are a family from long ago, literally cavemen. They have not met any other humans, do not know the existence of fire, have really really primitive hunting skills, and are your typical family—A father who is overbearing and hates his mother-in-law, A submissive supportive mother, A teenage daughter who constantly rebels, A spoilt son, A bratty toddler, and A cranky mother-in-law. The show follows the Croods through some self discovery and adventures.

Yes. That’s it. The family is so so typical, ordinary and imperfect that I was really wishing the daughter could be less manly and more feminine, the toddler should just be slapped, and the dad needs a knock on his head. Other that these frustrations, the entire show was a delight. And there were lots to talk about after the show as well.

There were many times when our kids squealed in delight over some silly antics, or when we adults chuckled at the arguments and conversations. Of course the fact that they were in the cavemen era, added fresh giggles throughout the show.

It is a pity there’s so little talk about the show. We enjoyed it tremendously and I’m quite sure you would too! (Ohhh! Although we watched the regular 2D version, the 3D effects should be quite good, as there were a few panoramic scenes and much of the cartoon was in bright vibrant colours!)

Go for the show. I won’t hesitate to recommend it. Even for the big screen.

Croods movie

 

Thursday, March 14, 2013

FTWM—Celebrate motherhood, life & work

This year marks my 8th year as a mummy. It also marks my 13th year as a working  adult. (you can figure out how old I am!) Out of my working life, 60% was done as a FTWM (for the uninitiated, that’s Full Time Working Mother). I thought that’s pretty amazing! However, I figured & I know for a fact that there are many many others FTWM around, and there’s really nothing much to shout about.

But there is. There’s a cause to celebrate. It is common to paint the really tough and challenging life of a FTWM. (We also describe that for SAHM, WAHM & PTWM…looks like being a momma just ain’t easy!) There are countless valid reasons why one is a FTWM. For most, it’s the practicality of a duo income. Whether it’s a reluctant decision or a willing choice, we are here to stay for sure.

So what’s there to celebrate for a FTWM? Let me count the ways… …

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I celebrate my H.U.S.B.A.N.D!

Our husbands play a vital role this parenting business. For me, my husband is fully supportive of me working. He understands when work gets tough, deadlines are brought forward, meetings are delayed, and most importantly, he understands when all the above happen when there’s a stomach flu bug in the house, when there’s no more Bubblegum toothpaste, and when kid #1 pushed kid #2 down and in turn kicked kid #3. And on top of that, it’s the day before Math Test. I will come home knowing that the medication is given, the toothpaste is bought, the kids’ fight is settled. Only exception is Math. Somehow, homework and husbands aren’t friends. hahaha!

Of course this is done vice versa. When he is at work, and everything happens, Mummy fixes everything. But we’ll talk about that another day!

I celebrate my C.H.I.L.D.R.E.N

Yes! They are my pride and joy. I thank God they understand Mummy works. Although cries of “can you don’t work?” has been heard, they love it when I’m off, when there’s a public holiday and when it’s weekend. Do I want to spend more time with them? Of course I do. But until that happens, they are learning independence and discipline to follow time tables and schedules.

When I’m asked what do you really want that would help you now, I always answer TIME. I want more time for the kids and more time with the kids.

I celebrate my W.O.R.K.P.L.A.C.E!

I honestly won’t be able to go so far as a FTWM if not for a very supportive and family friendly environment! From infant to 3 years old, we have a office nursery! Yes, one corner of the office has rooms for babies to sleep, play, eat, and mummies to breastfeed. During lunch or when I want a break, I just pop in the nursery to check out my baby!

Our hours are flexi, we can work from home or in office. The bosses are understanding and it is not surprising that the kids know their names and are friends with them! During the school hols, you can see kids coming in to do work (ahem…assessment books!), or hang out with other kids as the company organises holiday programmes for them!

I celebrate my L.I.F.E!

Yes, I have a life! As I work, I’m keeping myself sharp mentally and learning new stuff. I keep myself relevant, I earn a salary that goes back to me and my family. And the best part, I love what I do!

Would I consider being a SAHM/WAHM/PTWM? I’m ok if the option comes along. But my own mummy was, in my opinion, the best FTWM ever, and before retiring, she was the best FTWGM too! (Full-time Working Grand-Mother) And looking around society now, there are plenty such successful FTWM with gorgeous kids and families.

It’s not easy, but it’s not impossible. We take some and we lose some. For now, this FTWM is here to stay. Celebrate with me! Hop on to read other stories of FTWMs!

SANses.com's FTWM Motherhood Madness! 

SANses.com's Talkative Thursdays

 

 

Saturday, March 9, 2013

Review: Thinkersbox—Learn to think, Think to learn

Remember Thinkersbox? This is the really revelational centre that showed me if your child was really lazy and inattentive. We sent Nicole for an assessment there and she’s now attending their 10 month programme. It was time for a review, and parents were invited to observe the class and find out what happens during the 2 hours of class.

First thing I noticed was two teachers going quietly from child to child to assist. The 9-12 kids were sitting quietly in their groups doing individual work. It was shocking! haha… imagine 12 kids in a classroom, all focused on doing work. And mind you, it’s not even the same work for all. Child A may be doing Page 4 while Child B is working on Page 19.

Thinkersbox quiet work

Then I realised each child has a tag next to his seat. It shows the task for the day. This was comforting as it assured me the trainers do plan their schedules and everything follows the plan. (I like plans. It shows seriousness in work done!)

Thinkersbox time table

The trainer then went through briefly what each station does and how it works. It would be challenging for me to list out the various activities and purposes. So I selected the top two that impressed me!

Thinkersbox Bean sorting

A bowl of beans are given to the kids—Red beans and Soya beans. The kids have to separate the two. That simple! But oh no! The trainers expect the kids to remained focused at the task, no looking around, NOT EVEN LOOKING UP from the bowl! So during the task, the trainers may randomly shout out your name, and you can’t look up, just keep working on the beans! Woah! Isn’t that a tremendous activity to train your concentration!

Thinkersbox Concentration

Try this next one! From that mass of letters, find five or more letters in sequence such as “ABCDE”. After that, find five or more letters in reverse such as “EDCBA”. I really liked this task! It taught the kids following instructions and checking for details! I think these are VITAL skills in life!

There are other tasks such as computer games which focused on linking themes, or games which emphasised quick math etc. (I was a little nervous the trainers would want to test me. I could identify the areas that needed training for myself!!)

One interesting fact is not every child does these worksheets or activities. Based on the assessment they did, the customised workbook would have the relevant planned task for your child. So after these few weeks of lessons, did Nicole show any improvement?

Yes! And we got a glimpse of that in Legoland! haha! You can read about it here. We were building a part of the longest Lego snake and Nicole was able to count the number of rows we had made without pointing at it! She had definitely improved her EYE co-ordination.

Lego snake

I’m very happy with this 2 hour investment weekly. She enjoys the classes, and doesn’t see it as work! Ain’t that the best? The kids enjoying work without knowing it’s work!

To find out more about Thinkersbox, please call 6773 4886, or visit their website here.

Disclaimer: We were invited to attend the programme, but the opinions are 100% my own.

 

 

Friday, March 8, 2013

Fit & Fab Friday: My conversations changed

In my endeavour to be Fit and Fab, I said some things that I never thought I would say. It shocked me when I uttered those words, and mind you, it shocked everyone who heard too!

The following phrases and sentences were used just this week! WAH!!!

    • I slept in today instead of getting up to exercise!
    • I miss running.
    • Feeling sleepy today cos I didn’t exercise when I woke up!
    • Should I walk up the stairs to office today, instead of taking the lift?
    • Come by and pick up my husband, I will see you guys there. I will jog there

Unbelievable ya? My fit fab buddies say that they too are changing their preferences and words. Like the Bible says, out of the abundance of your heart, the mouth speaks!

Wooooo here’s to a fitter and more fab me!! Leaving you with a funny toon I saw this week:

mum keep fit

Mum’s the word

 

 

Tuesday, March 5, 2013

Therapy 101: The Dance Performance

I’ve received some lovely emails and comments about Nadine and I thought should do one post that made me a super proud mummy.

Well, Nadine, with all her therapy sessions have improved tremendously. And here’s a short video of her performing during the school’s Chinese New Year concert. Check out her smile and her enthusiasm!

Can you see her very much improved co-ordination? Her deep concentration to get the steps right? Her attempt to make the entire dance look natural? (I thought the dance steps were a wee bit challenging for a 5 yr old!) And can you see her trying hard to keep smiling throughout? (probably the teacher’s very important instruction to the class!)

So with such little milestones, we just keep giving thanks. Every bit is an improvement, every bit is a testament to God’s faithfulness!

This is part of a series I’ve started – Therapy 101, to document Nadine’s developmental struggles and victories, and to journal my own learning experiences as she goes through hers.

Therapy 101

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MummyMOO

 

 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 

Review-i Theatre and The Little Red Hen

We went to watch The Little Red Hen over the weekend. And it was fantastic!

The songs were catchy, the moral of the story was approved by all parents, and there were really some funny jokes! Ok. To be honest, some jokes were quite lame, but look at the kids’ reaction! PRICELESS! The entire performance was about 55 min, which was just about right for the kids.

Little Red Hen haha

Little Red Hen Me!

And they were all naturally excited to see the cast…(actually, all three wanted to eat the bread that the Little Red Hen baked!!!)

Cast little red hen

The tickets are selling out fast. So quickly go down to your nearest SISTIC outlet to get the tickets!

Little Red Hen

Monday, March 4, 2013

Review: Porcelain, The Face Spa

I’m not a facial person. That is, my face has only felt the regular cleanser/toner/moisturiser with the occasional mask and scrub. It is totally unfamiliar with exfoliation, steaming, face peel, extraction, etc. Don’t get me wrong, I’ve nothing against facial. I just am not a fan.

So when Porcelain, The Face Spa offered a Restorative Facial, I figured I’ve nothing to lose. The last time I had a facial was so so eons ago, it’s a good thing to go for one now! And what’s best, it’s a Restorative Facial, specially designed for mothers! How cool is that??

Porcelain Face Spa

I googled a bit and realised Porcelain is not a small time spa. It has been featured in numerous lifestyle magazines, and won beauty awards. Right now, it’s in the running for a World Luxury Spa award! And true enough, when I stepped in the shop, spa, unit, I was in a different world.

It wasn’t a la-di-la new age moment. It was just very quiet and serene. Very very light music at the back, and very faint essential oil scent around the room. It was automatic. You just have to turn your phone to silent mode…you won’t want to be responsible for breaking the ambience.

First, I had a warm foot bath to calm myself. Look around and soak in music, the scent, and simply relax.

Now the facial. This is a new treatment—The Restorative Facial ($195/session). 

The Restorative Facial is a six-step bespoke program that helps reduce overall skin sensitivity and water retention, while improving skin tone, hydration and elasticity. The treatment lasts about 60 minutes and combines the traditional style of Shiatsu Facial Massage with hi-tech Hyperbaric oxygen infusion of custom-blended tonics.

Like I mentioned, I don’t do facial often. The therapist was very gentle, and I expected harsh statements about my face condition, or hard-sell tactics on what I should use and products I should get. But nothing. She spoke only when spoken to, and before every step, she gave a brief intro to what will happen next.

The entire experience was very refreshing…and certainly restorative! (Did I mention that this facial is targeted for busy working mummies?) When I left, it was late afternoon. It was a cloudy day, nice and breezy. Well, I felt so restored and rejuvenated, I walked home! Yes, with my workbag on my shoulder, tee-shirt and jeans, and wearing Fit Flops, I walked 6.25 km (3.88 miles) home.

How’s that for a restorative facial?

Give Porcelain, The Face Spa a call to make your appointment for that much needed Restorative Facial today. Trust me, there’s no hard sell of packages or products. I thoroughly enjoyed the treatment!

Porcelain, The Face Spa

Address:
15 Cantonment Road
Singapore 089739

Telephone:
(65) 6227 9692

 

Friday, March 1, 2013

Fit & Fab Friday: Serving Sizes are important

Healthy Diet.

I always thought as long as the food’s not fatty or oily, as long as it’s not carbo loaded, not sugar loaded, not salted excessively, it is healthy.

W.R.O.N.G.

Of course I’m wrong. Any fool Anyone can tell that quantity does make a difference. Sigh.. I just only finally realised this!

You see, this is my regular breakfast since I started my Fit & Fab lifestyle. It looks yummy and is off to give you a great start to the day! I thought I read somewhere, have a good heavy breakfast. So this is my serving size, I pour in low fat milk, and have an apple! Not bad ya?

Cereal serving size

Well, a couple of days ago, I decided to take my kitchen scales and weigh the portion. According to the box, one serving is 52g. And this is what one serving looks like!!

correct cereal serving

oh man. I won’t even bother putting both pictures side by side. No wonder the weight loss is slow. I’m eating healthy, but eating too much! (and I’ve not even told you my lunch and dinner portions!!)

Do you watch your serving size for meals? Do you feel the recommended size is just way too small?

Mum’s the word